Oy! Six years!

So… my venerable therapist told me today that the rule of thumb (why do thumbs have rules anyway?) is that for every 5 years that you were in a serious relationship you should wait one year before you enter a new one. Follow me?
Um… that puts me at waiting 6 years before getting into a [...]

Belongs in a fortune cookie…

(Thank you , Allie) I know – easier said than done. I keep telling myself that worrying about what will happen won’t change it. I’m trying very hard to differentiate between planning for what might happen and worrying about it.
Sigh.

Divorce transition goal setting

The other day I talked about choices; that having too many choices is almost a daunting thing.
There are so many things I want to do, now that I’m really focusing on ME. Things I want to try, change, renovate, start, and learn.
Even my “101 in 1001″ list is daunting. 101 things is too many.
So – [...]

Choices

I stopped on my way home the other night to pick dinner up for myself. It was Friday night, and I was going to be home alone. I’m okay with it – I had a busy weekend coming up and I needed the downtime. What I didn’t need was to cook, so I stopped at [...]

Five months

He moved out five months ago today.
Five months ago I cried easily, even at work. I’ve never done that, even after finding out about the affairs.

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Going out at night by myself was weird, and I worried a lot about getting lost.
I worried a lot about money.
I hated eating alone.
I filled up my Saturday [...]

Uninvited little creeps

They spring up without notice. Uninvited. They sneak up…first just within your peripheral vision – then they slowly, insidiously creep into your direct view.
You can’t ignore them. You shake your head to make them go away, but they linger.
Memories.
I have them. Do you?
My 30-year marriage, of course, was not ALL bad. It couldn’t have been; [...]

Skill set

Sometimes, when you’re looking for a job, you need to show how skills you used at your old job will apply to the job for which you’re applying. Like how the customer service skills you honed as a food server, a retail clerk or a customer support specialist will transfer to selling tires, teaching or [...]

Am I the only one who’s alone?

So I returned late last night from camp. I was at a really lovely adult retreat (which just means that it isn’t a family retreat – get your mind out of the gutter) where about 35 Jewish adults studied text, prayed and sang (the songleader was AWESOME ~ and my daughter).
It was very nice and, [...]

Goin’ ta camp…

I’m off this weekend to go on a retreat with my daughter. Here’s hoping for a spiritual kick in the butt. Or a kick in the spiritual butt. Or a spiritual kick…
Whatever.
Here’s wishing you a fabulous weekend!

Read this… Kate Schmier: I’m Just Not That Into That Holiday

Really liked this post by Kate Schmier… I would rather spend a holiday – or any day – with a group of good friends than a mediocre man.
Kate Schmier: I’m Just Not That Into That Holiday