Boo eHarmony

So eHarmony is advertising that you can join for free for a few days. I go to the website and create an account and then complete the longest survey about likes, dislikes, etc.
I get to the end… and it tells me that my marital status is still married.
Yeah?
I know – isn’t that what separated means?
Well?
And [...]

Know what I miss?

I miss restaurant-seeking. We ate out a lot as a couple and it was always an issue of “what can he eat?” As a vegetarian, it wasn’t easy for Mr. Ex to go into just any ol’ restaurant – no steak joints for him. So whenever we were going to the theater or traveling, I [...]

Read this…

Nancy Goodman is a counselor/coach in Idaho (yes, that Idaho) and a former student of mine (yikes!).
She writes a wonderful blog about the elusive quest for happiness, Fumbling Towards Serenity.
Her recent blog post about combating self-talk was just wonderful. It really hit home for me – it’s so easy to drown yourself in feelings of [...]

More advice to men on online dating profiles

Ethnicity (from Encarta® World English Dictionary)
eth·nic·i·ty (noun)
ethnic affiliation or distinctiveness
Tip for men who are completing those online dating profiles…
The proper response to “ethnicity” would NOT BE:
I believe that people should treat others as they wish to be treated. I believe in the golden rule.
Not kidding here, folks. I’m thinking that somebody confused “ethnic” with “ethic.”
Another [...]

To be 16 again…

I’ve found the fountain of youth.
Seriously.
Wanna feel like an adolescent again?
Have your husband of 30 years leave you.
No kidding.
It puts you right back to being a high school junior and your boyfriend broke up with you the week before prom.
The angst, the agony, the blow to your self esteem.
I know what I’m talking about; I [...]

“Spiritual but not religious…”

What does that mean?
I’m doing what’s one of my favorite Saturday-morning activities; perusing JDate and Match…
Or, as I like to think of them, online mantalog shopping…
I haven’t “bought” yet, although I did “wink” at someone today. Weird.
Anyway, on Match, instead of posting a religion you can say you’re “spiritual but not religious.”
Any idea how many [...]

Belongs in a (really large) fortune cookie…

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Evolved individuals know that people who are not intuitive can be dangerous to work with, since they are guided solely by the appearance of things that are, in reality, changing. Evolved individuals seek out others who have intuition and vision – a form of intelligence that comes from cultivating the instincts, observing the [...]

I’m grateful today

For living with honesty now. Before Mr. Ex moved out, I never quite knew if the money that was in the bank was really in the bank, if the bills that were paid were really paid, and if the debt he told me we had was all we had. I may not have a whole [...]

The Facebook Phenomenon, continued

Yesterday I wrote about Facebook and how it prevented me from feeling socially isolated while going through a divorce.
That’s true – it’s definitely kept me from feeling that way. On the other hand, I think it could be bad if one starts to think of FB as a substitute to actual human-to-human interaction. Y’know – [...]

The Facebook Phenomenon, part one

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Okay. So I’m on Facebook. I actually have been for quite some time – longer than most of my peers in my age group (the old people, I guess). Not nearly as long as my recent college-graduate daughter, of course. I initially signed on so that I could see her photos (because a [...]