My brother has a philosophy about buying lottery tickets. He buys his every week, but he doesn’t check it until the next week. That way, when he loses, he can tell himself that the winner may be in his pocket.
That’s the same as emailing a man a day on JDate. If this one doesn’t respond, there could always be a winner in my pocket . . .
So emailing one JDate man a day isn’t as easy as I thought it was. Obviously, it’s easy to find men – doing a basic search for a man within an 11-year age range within 40 miles of my home turns up 166 names. And that’s kind of a narrow window; obviously, if I expanded my search range I’ll expand my options.
That’s not the problem.
The problem is that JDate just doesn’t give me anything to go on. Frankly, I find the Relationship questions useless.
Hi. I see you’re looking for someone with whom to go to the movies. I like movies . . . want to go out?
Why, hello – I see you’re looking for a long term relationship. Well, so am I!
Greetings. I see that your perfect first date would be to chat over a cup of coffee. Well, what a coincidence – so is mine!
And the Basics – the About me section isn’t much more help. Usually there’s just not enough there to help me out with a sensible email. Unless someone’s mentioned a common interest or occupation, it’s a struggle to find a good intro.
I wish that JDate had some icebreaker type of questions similar to OKCupid or Match. Even trivial stuff like favorite movies, books or foods – it would give me a little more material.
The problem is that, when I send an email, I like for it to reflect why I’m interested in emailing HIM. If they want to read about me, they can go to my profile. I know that when I receive an email from someone on an online site I like to know why they chose to email me.
Just my two cents’ worth.