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I’m grateful today

For living with honesty now. Before Mr. Ex moved out, I never quite knew if the money that was in the bank was really in the bank, if the bills that were paid were really paid, and if the debt he told me we had was all we had. I may not have a whole lot right now, but at least I know I’m not lying to myself when I tell me what’s in the bank.

It’s good to be grateful.

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Braving the cold

Tonight I went to my first support group meeting. It another meetup thing. Who knew that Wednesdays are Wacky Wednesdays at Baker’s Square? Really – a free piece of pie with any (ANY) order. Oy vey – a small cup of chili and a free piece of pie to boot.

Enough about the pie.

The people were so nice, thoughtful and supportive (in a support group way). Everybody shared their stories; custody issues, ex-spouses with pregnant girlfriends, ex-spouses who refuse to spend time with their children, financial problems, house problems…

Here’s what I learned:

1. I am incredibly lucky to not have children children.

2. I am incredibly lucky to have a career and to be able to support myself.

3. Everybody has the same problem with the house. Not who gets it, but who gets stuck with it because nobody can sell.

4. Thirty years is a long time to be married, and it makes my divorce thirty-year-painful, but I am fortunate that we had the good times that we had and can now go our separate ways and focus on ourselves.

5. Everybody, EVERYBODY, has the same “how the hell could I have been married to this person?” moments that I have had.

And, all over free pie. Win-win.

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I’m grateful today

My dear friend in another state has been married for over 30 years and is also in a “good enough” marriage. Unlike me she’s still in it, but it certainly has its ups and downs. She emailed today that she and her husband had a huge blow-up over the holidays and he stormed out of the house. He got into their only car (that hadn’t been driven in a few days) and drove off without letting it warm up (they’re in the midwest, so it was cold). He blew the engine, which resulted in a $2,000 repair. So, today I’m grateful to be done living with a man, no longer having to deal with his temper tantrums, and not having to pay for his nonsense.

And what are you grateful for?

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